‘i think as the parent of an autistic child i only struggle with the autism not the transgender.’ (whatsapp) ‘Our just-turned-12-year-old trans boy is extremely stressed and self-harming. It’s more to do with autism and not coping socially rather than gender related stress. I’m going to take out of school for a bit.’ (whatsapp) People who do not identify with the sex they were assigned at birth are three to six times as likely to be on the autism spectrum as cisgender people are. Trans-Autistics are likelier to experience a secondary neurodivergence or Psychological disorder (bipolar, OCD, depression, ADHD, or schizophrenia). As the mother of a trans, autistic boy with ADD, depression and severe anxiety I find myself using a narrative that ‘I’m literally fighting for his life’. This paper examines uncertain parenting and discursive practices of parents of trans children where they are faced with their marginalised children’s diversities and have allied (or not), more or less with their children (and with many others) to slowly undo and redo neuroqueer identities to find ‘possible horizons’. The comments above suggest that parents fall into the trap where neuroqueer becomes a mere synonym for neurodivergent, or for neurodivergent identity combined with queer identity. Against the ‘fight for my child’s life’ I want to draw on Nick Walker and others (2023) concept of ‘neuroqueering’ as a verb. In doing so, I show how trans children, despite their social and physical struggles (and their parents’ own anxieties), practice subverting, defying, disrupting, liberating themselves from neuronormativity and heteronormativity simultaneously.